He and She

So what exactly happens when two people fight...? two people in this post always means a he and a she... few minutes back i was in the situation (and thats how this post came about) and was paying attention to the exact verbal and non-verbal communication... and the realisation dawned... Neither he nor she understands what the other one was talking... And no, before we jump to a conclusion, its not because none were listening... Both were paying complete attention... Then whats the whole problem, we say... the problem is he and she are two different people... they stay together and share a life but, their thoughts are unique - i mean its difficult for another one to completely understand the germ of that thought, the way it develops and the exact other things that happened to that thought to shape it the way it has... And it is not this one thought that the brain produces... Now when the fight ensues he and she both try to explain their own situations... And not just that - also how ones own situation is graver than the other one... now tell me one thing - does a he/she really feel that their situation is more grave OR he/she are just doing so to make their side in the fight right...? And i had one answer, in case of GENUINE fights (where he and she, both are fair and logical at that time - i like the idea), the first condition is true... Both feel that they are right and their situation graver... and here there is no pretence... So, the next thing that happens (what i observed) is they come down from a fight to an argument, then to a discussion and then laugh over some silly joke that they crack on each other... And guess what, the fight ends... And for the irrational ones, you continue to fight till you graduate to the second category coz everyone has worked their way till here in the same manner...

State of 'wow'...

Place : Handloom expo, Bandra reclamation... Time : Around 3.30 pm... State of mind : Wow, what to buy, what to leave, eyeing beautiful handwoven fabrics, handpainted sarees and suits, wanting them all, state of complete confusion... When i decided to go there, i never thought that it would just captivate me... but there it was - all so beautiful and inviting... the colours, the threads, the designs, the mistakes in the fabrics thats the true identification of it being handwoven... Every pattern has a story to tell about its origin, the state to which it belongs... it has an identity... you look at the style of an ikkat and you can make out whether its a paithani from maharashtra or an ikkat from orissa... they were all there - the silks and tussers and chanderis and cottons whne you count the fabric; kanjeevarams, paithanis, calcuttis, baandhnis, kashmiri; some were handwoven and some handpainted with madhubani paintings... looking at them i felt that they all had complete right to be in my wardrobe and not lying here waiting for others to appreciate them and may be buy them... i just wanted to be amidst them- looking at every piece in detail, appreciating the weaver's job done in making them, and gaze them with a look of 'i want it all'... am gonna sleep with all of them in my head and may be even my dream will have a quality of a 'tohfa' song (jeetendra and jayaprada) and instead of the colourful matkas there will be sarees galore...

Daily drama...

Heya… a hectic day at work today… little time, too much to do… so much taam-jhaam, meetings, ten ppl with ten different ideas, chaos, confusion and a lot more… but I guess this is how we all survive… the whole television industry works this way… just like our episodes, our life too has lot of daily drama – work wise… arre aaj ka episode nahi bana… tension… brainstorm – ideation- chalo, line up ban gaya... kitne baje - raat ke 12 baje hai... ek kaam karo subah jab channel office pahuche uss se pehle yeh episode unnke mailbox mein hona chahiye... that means u work the whole night elaborating it and then the creative head goes through it like at 5 or 6 in the morning - sleepy eyed but the mind is racing... more drama added... and the mail it off to the channel... and this goes on... And the days we cant think, the brain-dead day as i call it, life goes for a toss... firstly, no thoughts are making their way to your mind... over and above that the pressure from the production house that no episode has gone till now... the stress... and amidst all this expect not just any idea- a brilliant idea, a never done before idea - should strike... phew... and it is more stressful and hectic than it sounds... but i guess we have gotten used to it - not in a good way, but atleast we manage to joke about it... and i managed to write about it at the end of this day... which is actually the next day now... off i go now... gotta finish 5 episodes in next 4 days... and the tension is already mounting....