He and She

So what exactly happens when two people fight...? two people in this post always means a he and a she... few minutes back i was in the situation (and thats how this post came about) and was paying attention to the exact verbal and non-verbal communication... and the realisation dawned... Neither he nor she understands what the other one was talking... And no, before we jump to a conclusion, its not because none were listening... Both were paying complete attention... Then whats the whole problem, we say... the problem is he and she are two different people... they stay together and share a life but, their thoughts are unique - i mean its difficult for another one to completely understand the germ of that thought, the way it develops and the exact other things that happened to that thought to shape it the way it has... And it is not this one thought that the brain produces... Now when the fight ensues he and she both try to explain their own situations... And not just that - also how ones own situation is graver than the other one... now tell me one thing - does a he/she really feel that their situation is more grave OR he/she are just doing so to make their side in the fight right...? And i had one answer, in case of GENUINE fights (where he and she, both are fair and logical at that time - i like the idea), the first condition is true... Both feel that they are right and their situation graver... and here there is no pretence... So, the next thing that happens (what i observed) is they come down from a fight to an argument, then to a discussion and then laugh over some silly joke that they crack on each other... And guess what, the fight ends... And for the irrational ones, you continue to fight till you graduate to the second category coz everyone has worked their way till here in the same manner...